Dating and Safety Tips

Why Dating Tips are important

You have an exciting opportunity to make new friends and start romantic relationships.  It is important to be cautious when meeting someone new online and then possibly in person.  There are things you can do 5o stay safe during your Glimmer experience.   We are here to support you!

Online Safety

NEVER Send Money or Share Financial Information

Do not ever send money to someone you have met online.  Never use a wire transfer.  Do not give out your bank account information, credit card account number or debit card number.  If the person wants this information, please let us know.  That person is not worth any relationship.  We ask for credit card information on our secure website for paid memberships only. 

Do NOT Share Your Personal Information

Do not give out your social security number, home or work address, or information about your daily routine.  If you have children do not share their ages, genders, school they attend, schedules.  We do not ask for that information.  Anyone asking for this information is intruding on your privacy.  Do not give this information out. 

Stay On Our Platform

Stay on our platform while you are getting to know someone. Do not agree with text, messaging apps, email or phone until you get to really know someone and feel safe.

Red Flags:

  • People from another country who say they are from the US and want money.
  • People who will not meet in person or talk on a video/phone call.
  • People who are pushing for a serious relationship before they get to know you
  • People who ask for money
  • Harassment, threats, or offensive messages
  • Inappropriate or harmful behavior during or after an in-person meeting
  • Fraudulent profiles
  • Spam or solicitation with links to commercial websites to sell products or services.
  • Users who are underage but claim to be older.
  • If you have any concerns, please contact us immediately.

Protect Your Account

Pick a strong password and be careful if you are using a public or shared computer. Glimmer will never send you an email asking for your username or password, so do not give it to anyone. If you get this request, please report it to us immediately.

Meeting in Person

Don’t Rush

Take your time and get to know the person online first.  Use the chat function. Also try a video call.  Ask questions to be sure there are no red flags.

Meet in Public and Stay There

For the first few times always meet in public and stay there.  Do not meet in your home, the other person’s home, or any other private location.  Do not accept a meeting where there are no other people around until you are sure the person is safe.

Tell Friends and Family About Your Plans

Always tell a friend, family member, and often more than one person of your plans for a meeting.  This includes the date, time and place of the meeting.  You can also take someone with you for the first few meetings.  Also have your phone with you and make sure it is fully charged and easy to get to.

Control Your Transportation To and From the Meeting Place

Do not let the other person drive you or arrange for your transportation until you feel comfortable and are safe.   Know your public transportation options, have a friend ready to pick you up, or have a ride share app on your phone and be sure you know how to use it.

Know Your Limitations

Do not drink or take any drugs that you are uncomfortable with.  Drugs and alcohol can affect your judgment and alertness.  If you are on prescription drugs, be aware drinking can interact poorly with your system.  Do not accept any drugs offered to you.  You do not really know what they are, and they can be dangerous.  Only accept drinks directly from the bartender or poured by you.

Don’t Leave Your Personal Items Unattended

Keep everything with you so no one can snoop.  Guys keep your wallet in your pants pocket, ladies always keep your purse with you.

If You Feel Uncomfortable, Leave

You can always leave early if you are uncomfortable.  If you do not feel safe, ask a staff member at your meeting place to assist you.


While we recognize and believe it is important to be inclusive of all gender identities and sexual orientations, we are fully aware there is the potential of risk anywhere.  Some countries target LGTTQ people.  Check out the laws for legal protection before you travel anywhere.  Use extra caution to be sure you are safe.

Sexual Health and Consent

Do not participate in sexual contact without first discussing what this means with a family member or close friend, counselor, etc.   Be aware of emotions attached to this behavior, possible sexual diseases, pregnancy.  Do not allow yourself to be forced into any relationship you are not comfortable with. If you suspect you may have an STD, make sure you get tested for your health and safety.  Any sexual activity must include the consent of both partners.  If you do not feel safe, please leave the situation and talk to someone you are close with and report it to Glimmer.

Call 911 in the US and Canada if you feel you are in immediate danger or need emergency help.

Glimmer has a list of resources for support if you need additional help.